Maybe your teens have a lot to get angry about.  They may think that you don’t understand them,they may not know exactly who they are or where they’re going.  They think they don’t even control their own lives.  Anger is a natural reaction to all of this.

Anger can be destructive and can also be constructive.  Destructive in a way when it hurts people or relationships.  When it is used to motivate one to work harder in school, deciding who one’s real friends are, learning how to talk and make jokes about oneself and learning how to talk things through with parents or teachers who want to listen and other positive things, it is constructive.

Proper communication with your teens is very important, parents are the key to having our teens talk about anger rather than acting it out.  Communicating with them may help them feel comfortable.  Here are some tips you must do as a parent:

1.  You must understand your teens anger.  You can say:  Talk to me;  look I am  here for you. ; talk to me, because I’m not going to do anything but listen.

2.  You must help them manage it.  Dwell on the positive.  Try to relate some experience.  You can say:  It’s good to talk when you’re angry.  Maybe I can help you if you will tell me what you’d like to do.

3.  You must help them channel it into productive emotion and action.  You can say:  what can you do to make sure it doesn’t happen again?  ; which of these things would be best for you?

4.  Be a sympathetic parent.  Children like sympathy, they might offer information.  If your teen is shy about talking to you about her anger, show her you’re there for her.

The success of what you say may not be immediately visible but in a long run it will have positive results. So, good luck!